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Yes, and Yes and No. Has four parts: self-awareness, managing our emotions, and social skill. There are many tests of emotional, and most seem to show that women tend to have an edge over men when it comes to these basic skills for a happy and successful life.
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That edge may matter more than ever in the, as more companies are starting to recognize the advantages of high EI when it comes to positions like sales, and. On the other hand, it's not that simple. For instance, some measures suggest women are on average better than men at some forms of empathy, and men do better than women when it comes to managing distressing emotions. Whenever you talk about such differences in behavior, your are referring to two different Bell Curves, one for men and one for women, that largely overlap. What this means is that any given man might be as good or better as any woman at empathy, and a woman as good as or better than a specific man at handling upsets. Let's look at empathy.
There are three kinds: empathy, being able to know how the other person sees things; emotional empathy, feeling what the other person feels; and empathic concern, or sympathy -being ready to help someone in need. Women tend to be better at emotional empathy than men, in general. This kind of empathy fosters rapport and chemistry. People who excel in emotional empathy make good counselors, teachers, and group leaders because of this ability to sense in the moment how others are reacting. Neuroscientists tell us one key to empathy is a region called the insula, which senses signals from our whole body. When we're empathizing with someone, our brain mimics what that person feels, and the insula reads that pattern and tells us what that feeling is. Here's where women differ form men.
If the other person is upset, or the emotions are disturbing, women's brains tend to stay with those feelings. But men's brains do something else: they sense the feelings for a moment, then tune out of the emotions and switch to other brain areas that try to solve the problem that's creating the disturbance. Thus women's complaint that men are tuned out emotionally, and men's that women are too emotional - it's a brain difference. Neither is better - both have advantages. The male tune-out works well when there's a need to insulate yourself against distress so you can stay calm while others around you are falling apart - and focus on finding a solution to an urgent problem. And the female tendency to stay tuned in helps enormously to nurture and support others in emotional trying circumstances.
It's part of the 'tend-and-befriend' response to. There's another way of looking at male-female differences in EI: Simon Bar-On Cohen at Cambridge University, says that there's an extreme 'female brain' which is high in emotional empathy - but not so good at systems analysis. By contrast, the extreme 'male brain' excels in systems thinking and is poor at emotional empathy (he does not mean that all men have the 'male brain', nor all women the 'female brain' of course; many women are skilled at systems thinking, and many men at emotional empathy). Psychologist Ruth Malloy at the HayGroup Boston studies excellence in leaders.
She finds when you only look at the stars - leaders in the top ten percent of business performance - gender differences in emotional intelligence abilities wash out: The men are as good as the women, the women as good as the men, across the board. That echoes a discovery by scientists who study primates. When a chimp sees another chimp who is upset, say from an injury, she mimics the distress, a way of showing empathy. Some chimps will then go over and give some solace to the upset chimp, for example, stroking the other to help it calm down. Female chimps do this more often than male chimps do - with one intriguing exception: The alpha males, the troupe leaders, give solace even more often than do female chimps. In 's design, leaders, it seems, need a large dose of empathic concern. Women (most of them) are born with an intuition gene, which gives them a leg up when it comes to empathy.
Men (most of them) are not born with such a gene. For these boys empathy needs to be taught. Beginning from two, 2 1/2, 3 to 5 years old, empathy must be taught as a skill, and constantly reinforced through all their lives until it comes as naturally as it does to (most) women. And if it is taught, and reinforced, then war will not be possible. Men will feel, as will their opponents, the fear of soldiering, the loneliness, the pity for the opponents, the monstrous illness of any leader who would ask for such behavior of their citizens instead of taking sword to battle to face their opposite number, and (placing swords upon the earth) talking over their disagreements, finding compromises, and finally agreement. And if that cannot be the outcome, if wars are planned by old dinosaurs, and ordered by leaders so sick that they cannot empathize, I pray that soldiers either PLAY the wars on video screens or walk, heads held HIGH, out of their armies and beat their swords into plowshares and their spears into pruning hooks and farm the lands.
Women (most of them) are born with an intuition gene, which gives them a leg up when it comes to empathy. Men (most of them) are not born with such a gene. For these boys empathy needs to be taught. Beginning from two, 2 1/2, 3 to 5 years old, empathy must be taught as a skill, and constantly reinforced through all their lives until it comes as naturally as it does to (most) women. And if it is taught, and reinforced, then war will not be possible.
Men will feel, as will their opponents, the fear of soldiering, the loneliness, the pity for the opponents, the monstrous illness of any leader who would ask for such behavior of their citizens instead of taking sword to battle to face their opposite number, and (placing swords upon the earth) talking over their disagreements, finding compromises, and finally agreement. And if that cannot be the outcome, if wars are planned by old dinosaurs, and ordered by leaders so sick that they cannot empathize, I pray that soldiers either PLAY the wars on video screens or walk, heads held HIGH, out of their armies and beat their swords into plowshares and their spears into pruning hooks and farm the lands. OMG - there is no such thing as an 'intuition gene'. Made up facts combined with your inane, simplistic, theories is not making you a good example for your gender. @Salome Waters While I appreciate your comment you'd best learn more science and history before spouting pie in the sky theories of how empathy will change the world. Boys become aggressive or end up in war for a host of reasons much of it to due with lack of opportunities and inequality. There are as many women as men who think war is often a good idea.
If human history is to go by, all human beings are naturally antagonistic to some extent even if they are unaware of it because most thought is unconscious. See here: You should read about how women treated jews in germany and how they joined in the 'hunts'. Human beings - all of them, can be painfully cruel.
Empathy is far from enough in the real world. People have different moralities, customs and moral compasses that are at odds with one another and most people will not compromise their sensibilities many people will fight to the death for their ignorance or mistaken notions no matter what.
Human must be complete. It must have both feminine and masculine qualities. Although men mind live more in intelligence more,less in spirit.
And Women mind live more in spirit more,less in intelligence. We must balance as human not as labels female and male. And we must remember that feminine qualities come 1st and then masculine.
Today women are awaken to develop masculinity in them but it is matter of disgust, ignorance from men side with regard to feminine qualities. All qualities are necessary for complete life. Also refer to.
If psychology as a group is to have any positive affect on society, it must remove any notion of genetic differences in any form of ability. It must begin to recognize how our individual environments greatly affect thinking, learning, motivation, awareness, experiences, and yes, feelings along with our reactions to them. Today, the myth of genetics in ability continues to create much damage to students and adults from stagnant students to many deaths each year from drug/alcohol abuse and suicide. Today, due to much differential treatment, we are not only seeing differences in social/emotional skills and traits, we are also witnessing global differences in perceived abilities by gender in school and the office. I feel persons and groups maintain the genetics models at great peril to society. Psychologists must begin to look much more closely as environment and 'must be' in the forefront to helping to prevent a very skewed skill range by gender from turning into a social war between Males and Females all due to headstrong beliefs in genetics and no regard for very important environmental variables society desperately needs to maintain a solid framework for it people.
You must end your espousing of genetics and begin using all the many wonder, environmental variables at work to help be the force to help society, not destroy it. My theory offers many wonderful cognitive variables/tools to help many students continually improve their lives and help create much more esteem and hope for all. Feel free to read, copy, and use. I don't know if I'm any smarter than you but what I have found in my marriage is that my husband and I are different and we complement each other. I am much more intuitive and over the years he's learned that when I meet a colleague of his and have a bad feeling, to trust me. When we first got married, he would scoff, but after being burned a few times he figured out that I am almost always right when my 'spidey sense' tingles.
Also, I tend to get a bad 'feeling' about situations and, again, my husband has learned to take it seriously. Not that he blindly goes along with me but he respects that even if he doesn't understand it, it's for real. OTOH, I have had issues where I dwell on problems, emotional issues, etc., and he has really helped me to compartmentalize and let them go.
Sometimes there IS no solution to a thorny emotional issue. Sometimes people really are just jerks and you can't change that, you can only set boundaries. So now I spin my wheels less, which is good. He's also helped me become more assertive and I've helped him become less aggressive. As far as divorce, I think the issue is not women per se but modern society that has given women misguided ideas about marriage. Once upon a time women understood that her husband was an imperfect human being and also that he was male. So he wasn't going to provide (in general) the same emotional support as a close girlfriend.
(Don't get me wrong here, some men are very emotionally supportive and some women are not, I'm generalizing.) So a woman's expectations for a marriage were more realistic. Now women seem much more harsh towards men. The reality is that both men and women are flawed people and unless you can accept and love someone with all their flaws, it's foolish to marry. I don't buy this, but the author is partially correct. I think that men and women feel the same empathy, but the difference is that men don't dwell on things they cannot change, whereas women are less focused and let the emotional side of their brains control them.
I think that is the reason why women have more psychological problems than men. The other side of the problem is that women imagine problems that don't exist. Many times it's like women aren't dealing with reality, i.e mild cases of schizophrenia. My sister and my girlfriend are not immune to this. When something bothers them, they go on and on about it, usually to find out later that they were wrong in assessing the situation. During all of this, they drag everyone around them into their mental problems.
Not schizophrenia though I understand why you may say that, you're talking about the mood swings and the violent anger, a kind of Jekell an Hyde multiple personality kind of thing. It's more mundane than that. Research tells us a couple of things. According to the Big Five personality test, women are more neurotic and more paranoid than men. Neuroscience tells us women taking oral contraceptive pills remember their reaction to the event rather than the event itself.
You can see how that would cause inaccurate recall. I feel confrontations in life tend to create more compassion and care for others. I feel these areas tend to create more 'true empathy'. I feel we may easily lose sight of true empathy if we use outward emotional responses as our guide. I feel true empathy becomes more cognitive and less emotional and tends to reach into our inner-emotions with less outward emotion. As for boys and girls, men and women, I see the belief boys should be strong creating much more aggressive treatment as early as one year of age.
This is coupled with much less mental, emotional, social, verbal interaction and support for fear of coddling. I see this as creating much more social emotional distance, less emotion, more wariness, yet more true caring or empathy in general for others. This may show up in more physical desire to help or be more considerate of those another they feel such empathy toward. They may also be lacking considerably (socially deprived by differential treatment) in many social/emotional skills society may attempt to use to gauge social/emotional intelligence and empathy. I believe the much more support can care we as girls/women receive from infancy create much more isolation from true hardship of others. We have developed many social/emotional skills form close communication with parents, teachers, and peers.
We are also blessed with much more ease of emotional displays and support for a host of responses we may offer others. This can easily allow us to at least give the impression we are more empathetic of others than boys. So here we must look very close at how our confrontations of lack of along with our inculcated freedoms of expression or lack of create very different impression upon others regarding emotional intelligences.
I totally disagree with this. Women tend have lower emotional intelligence, and higher general intelligence. Men have higher emotional intelligence, and lower general intelligence. In any family/office/classroom environment I've ever seen, the male is ussually peacemaker and jobsworth. The female's usually lead in critical thinking, but are constantly on the warpath.
Political leaders. Hilary Clinton (policy expert/cold personality) vs Barack Obama/Bill Clinton/George Bush (affable personality/2nd rate intellectual) Thatcher (policy expert/cold personality) vs Major/Blair/Cameron (affable personality/2nd rate intellectuals) Look at the Osbournes or the Kardashians. The male family members always run around appeasing the girls (who run the show). This is obviously a massive overgeneralisation, but my primary point is that this popular gender construct is the fantasy of each gender. From a young age women need to overcompensate for their low emotional intelligence by telling everyone how naturally gifted with people they are, and men need to overstate their naturally poorer performances in education/critical thinking/budgeting money etc etc. Some say women are smarter, others dumber, others more empathetic, others less empathetic, others skitzo, others say just mood swings, other yet say theyre overcompensating for stereotypes and in general are the opposites of what everyone else says, blahblahblah.
Same kinds of sweeping generalizations about men as well. Heres what I've seen: everything from both sides. It seems like more of an individual thing than a gender thing. Every ONE is different. I do 'see' women will express their emotions vs men will hide them, but is that just a stereotype where I am more apt to pick it out because I always hear its true?
Or is it real and only because of male and female identity cultures being instilled in us all since youth? OR is it a very real physiological reaction from estrogen vs testosterone levels and womens period hormones (I think I lean towards this). Because let me tell you, I know I've personally cried over underwater sonar blasts killing entire groups of endangered whales in the bahamas for hours while on my period. Which is indeed sad if you know how intelligent cetaceans are, but HOURS is a long time to be crying sad over an unchangeable reality in a different country happening to a different species. And back to the point: what does it change for us to know who is more prone to what responses when it isnt even always true for everyone?
Does it really even matter with so much overlap? Its more like just an excuse to judge people by the covers of their books before getting to know them. I see men act like 'women' and women act like 'men' on a daily basis so I really have no idea who definitively as a gender acts what way and why.
And the longer I think about it the more I go back and forth. I will say it is interesting, though, both to read and to hear everyones perspectives depending on their life experiences saying how they expect each gender to act. I know I have my personal perspective too, regardless of if it is truly correct. A war opinion: I don't think JUST giving Both genders more empathy will be the end of war. There is much more to do to accomplish that, although I do think it would help if we could indeed increase EVERYONES empathy towards each other. Politics, economics, religion and other excuses to start war (who has weapons of mass destruction) all play a large roll in why countries go to war. You may have all the empathy in the world but if you've been indoctrinated to believe its you and yours vs someone elses, the survival instinct kicks in and people do unthinkable things.
And one thing politicians and leaders are great at is fear propaganda to get people hyped up into doing their bidding. I'm sorry but there is no such thing as emotional intelligence. You can't call yourself psychology today and mention emotional intelligence. If you are talking about empathy I find only expressive differences and more logic in men.
What I've observed over the years is that men are more aware of what they're doing. Therefore if they know they are doing something that's not recommended they are expecting a certain level of risk and if they 'fuck up' they know it's on them.
That also coins the perception about other people around. To be maximally precise, this does not mean that they can't empathise or that they express less emotions, in fact it's been proven that men are hit harder by relationship breakups. What this means is that men will use a little more reason in their approach of the situation and therefore act differently than women (women would call that cold). But empathy is not the ability to show people what you feel, but to feel what people feel. In that case I would argue that women often exagurate in the other extreme and show themselves to be more empathetic than they really are. On average both men and women are similarly empathetic with a little bit more emphasis on men.
However men come in more extremes, most empathetic men will be more empathetic than women and most 'cold' men will be colder than coldest women. And In my opinion (I've just noticed it while writing a response) IQ plays the role here. If you compare the IQ Gauss curve between men and women you will find the disparity I've described. Also if you look at socioeconomic status you will find the same thing. Women are more solid in the middle (and artifitialy they have been rising that middle in recent years).
So you will find men majority both in top 1% and bottom 20%. Gauss curve comparison between men and women (IQ) shows that men are a bit wider with a little shift to the right, as opposed to women with less extremes but shifted a little bit to the left. That is in general not significant and can't provide basis for any kind of bias and discrimination and I don't condone that. However It can explain what feminists today call 'men dominance' as due to the Pareto distribution (indicating that square root of people in a certain system accounts for 50% of productivity of that system) can maybe explain a little bit better why the inequity (there is no inequality) is such a big issue.
This also indicates that as your IQ grows your ability grows quadraticly and therefore the difference between IQ 100 and 115 is almost irrelevant compared to difference between IQ 150 and 165. That's just my opinion, but I think I'm pretty much close to maximum certainty that can be attained with the info and statistics we have obtained so far.
Emotional Intelligence was an international phenomenon, appearing on the New York Times bestseller list for over a year and selling more than five million copies worldwide. Now, once again, Daniel Goleman has written a groundbreaking synthesis of the latest findings in biology and brain science, revealing that we are “wired to connect” and the surprisingly deep impact of o Emotional Intelligence was an international phenomenon, appearing on the New York Times bestseller list for over a year and selling more than five million copies worldwide. Now, once again, Daniel Goleman has written a groundbreaking synthesis of the latest findings in biology and brain science, revealing that we are “wired to connect” and the surprisingly deep impact of our relationships on every aspect of our lives. Far more than we are consciously aware, our daily encounters with parents, spouses, bosses, and even strangers shape our brains and affect cells throughout our bodies—down to the level of our genes—for good or ill. In Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman explores an emerging new science with startling implications for our interpersonal world. Its most fundamental discovery: we are designed for sociability, constantly engaged in a “neural ballet” that connects us brain to brain with those around us.
Our reactions to others, and theirs to us, have a far-reaching biological impact, sending out cascades of hormones that regulate everything from our hearts to our immune systems, making good relationships act like vitamins—and bad relationships like poisons. We can “catch” other people’s emotions the way we catch a cold, and the consequences of isolation or relentless social stress can be life-shortening. Goleman explains the surprising accuracy of first impressions, the basis of charisma and emotional power, the complexity of sexual attraction, and how we detect lies. He describes the “dark side” of social intelligence, from narcissism to Machiavellianism and psychopathy. He also reveals our astonishing capacity for “mindsight,” as well as the tragedy of those, like autistic children, whose mindsight is impaired. Is there a way to raise our children to be happy? What is the basis of a nourishing marriage?
How can business leaders and teachers inspire the best in those they lead and teach? How can groups divided by prejudice and hatred come to live together in peace? The answers to these questions may not be as elusive as we once thought. And Goleman delivers his most heartening news with powerful conviction: we humans have a built-in bias toward empathy, cooperation, and altruism–provided we develop the social intelligence to nurture these capacities in ourselves and others. From the Trade Paperback edition.
Here are some interesting quotes from the book: “When someone dumps their toxic feelings on us, explodes in anger or threats, shows disgust or contempt, they activate in us circuity for those very same distressing emotions. Their act has potent neurological consequences. Emotions are contagious. We catch strong emotions much as we do a rhino virus, and so can come down with an emotional cold. Every social interaction has an emotional subtext.
Along with whatever else we are doing, we can make ea Here are some interesting quotes from the book: “When someone dumps their toxic feelings on us, explodes in anger or threats, shows disgust or contempt, they activate in us circuity for those very same distressing emotions. Their act has potent neurological consequences. Emotions are contagious.
We catch strong emotions much as we do a rhino virus, and so can come down with an emotional cold. Every social interaction has an emotional subtext. Along with whatever else we are doing, we can make each other feel a little better, or even a lot better. Or, a little worse, or a lot worse” If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.Marcus Aurelius I also found the following facts very interesting: -Those with an ongoing personal conflict are 2.5 times more likely to get a cold.Ongoing personal conflict puts people in the same category as vitamin c deficiency or lack of sleep.4.2 times more likely to get a cold if you are isolated and have few social connections. In my ongoing exploration of emotional intelligence, I decided to give this book a try in an effort to build my own skills at recognizing and responding to social situations.
I learned early into reading this that I had chosen the wrong book. Goleman goes into a fair amount of depth explaining the neurological basis for our emotional reactions to social stimuli, but doesn't extend the discussion to how we can build the ability to read social situations and modulate our own behaviors and response In my ongoing exploration of emotional intelligence, I decided to give this book a try in an effort to build my own skills at recognizing and responding to social situations. I learned early into reading this that I had chosen the wrong book.
Goleman goes into a fair amount of depth explaining the neurological basis for our emotional reactions to social stimuli, but doesn't extend the discussion to how we can build the ability to read social situations and modulate our own behaviors and responses to elicit a desired outcome. Admittedly, once I realized my error I skimmed the rest of the book, so I may have missed something. This book is very fascinating to me. It is research is neurobiology and is filled with wonderful research and data about how different parts of our brain affect change in our social behavior. It also has quite a bit of research about how early trauma effects brain development and can later effect styles of communication. I think this should be required reading for all 10th graders. I say 10th graders because I believe they are at the place developmentally to really absorb and implement what Golem This book is very fascinating to me.
It is research is neurobiology and is filled with wonderful research and data about how different parts of our brain affect change in our social behavior. It also has quite a bit of research about how early trauma effects brain development and can later effect styles of communication. I think this should be required reading for all 10th graders. I say 10th graders because I believe they are at the place developmentally to really absorb and implement what Goleman is saying. I wish I had read it in 10th grade.
My life would have taken a different trajectory. I always think about how the classroom should focus more on 'social politics' if you will or a course called 'what really matter' or 'what they didn't tell you on the SAT's'. Because at the end of the days it is one's ability to navigate complex social structures that affords one 'success' in most economic and social systems. My friend and I started reading this book at exactly the same time, one year ago.
I made a comment to him over coffee 2 or 3 weeks ago about some trivia I had gleaned from Social Intelligence, and asked what he thought of that particular chapter. His reply was priceless (on many levels). He sighed and whispered 'I am STILL reading it!' I leaned in an whispered, 'SO AM I!' We agreed completely on these points: 1. This book is not good enough to devour, but not bad enough to give up on. Eithe My friend and I started reading this book at exactly the same time, one year ago.
I made a comment to him over coffee 2 or 3 weeks ago about some trivia I had gleaned from Social Intelligence, and asked what he thought of that particular chapter. His reply was priceless (on many levels). He sighed and whispered 'I am STILL reading it!'
I leaned in an whispered, 'SO AM I!' We agreed completely on these points: 1. This book is not good enough to devour, but not bad enough to give up on. Either both of us, seemingly intellectual minds, are not quite as intellectual as we believe OR this book is simply a shell game. We will never finish the book. Oddly enough, we are living proof of many of the points Daniel Goleman is attempting to make.the longer two people interact.they mirror one another.
The irony of it all! Goleman and I share a common passion for the places where spiritual practice and psychology overlap, and his work fascinates me. In both 'Emotional Intelligence' and Social Intelligence' he shows how we can use our conscious minds to rewire our neurological response patterns, thus increasing the quality of our lives.
In other books, Goleman explicitly talks about his belief that spiritual practices, like meditation or chanting, work because they rewire neural circuits along healthier pathways. T Goleman and I share a common passion for the places where spiritual practice and psychology overlap, and his work fascinates me. In both 'Emotional Intelligence' and Social Intelligence' he shows how we can use our conscious minds to rewire our neurological response patterns, thus increasing the quality of our lives. In other books, Goleman explicitly talks about his belief that spiritual practices, like meditation or chanting, work because they rewire neural circuits along healthier pathways.
This book does not deal with it directly, but if you understand that framework it provides a lot of food for thought along those lines. For example, Goleman discusses 'The Three Styles of Attachment,' which are partly inherited and partly sculpted by social/parental influences in infancy and early childhood. He writes, 'Our childhood leaves its stamp on our adult ardor nowhere more clearly than in our 'attachment system,' the neural networks that operate whenever we relate to the people who matter the most to us. As we have seen, children who are well nurtured and feel their caretakers to empathize with them become secure in their attachments, neither overly clingy nor pushing away. But those whose parents neglect their feelings and who feel ignored become avoidant, as though they have given up hope of achieving a caring connection.
And children whose parents are ambivalent, unpredictably flipping from rage to tenderness, become anxious and insecure.' So the three attachment styles are anxious, secure, and avoidant. It is interesting to compare this theory side by side with the Buddhist theory (also found in some strains of Hindu philosophy, like the Yoga Sutras) that in order to become fully established in wisdom and compassion, we need to transcend both attachment and aversion. I think some people misinterpret this to mean that we need to cultivate emotional aloofness, an 'avoidant attachment style' in the above paradigm.
I think it is more useful to see the middle path as analogous to the 'secure' attachment style - centered, grounded, and avoiding the two extremes of clinginess (attachment) and aloofness (aversion). The secure attachment style allows us to enjoy both intimacy and solitude. The anxious person clings fearfully to intimacy and is not able to learn how to joyfully embrace solitude, while the avoidant person is unable to fully experience intimacy.
The secure person joyfully embraces bothy intimacy and solitude because she knows how to stay centered in the radiant core of her true being. I personally believe that we have both biological and spiritual dimensions, as does all of life. Goleman's work interests me because it gives me concrete ideas for how to more effectively tinker with my biological self, so that I can more fully live in my spiritual self. This book is supposed to be the sequel to Emotional Intelligence. Goleman further argues that IQ is a poor way of gauging intelligence or how successful someone will be in life.
This book is full of neuro-science, brain physiology and psychological studies involving children, medical and psychological patients, inmates and ordinary people. He explores such ideas as emotional contagion, social rewiring of abused and neglected youths, the Us vs. Them mindset, how humans form attachments to others, This book is supposed to be the sequel to Emotional Intelligence. Goleman further argues that IQ is a poor way of gauging intelligence or how successful someone will be in life. This book is full of neuro-science, brain physiology and psychological studies involving children, medical and psychological patients, inmates and ordinary people. He explores such ideas as emotional contagion, social rewiring of abused and neglected youths, the Us vs. Them mindset, how humans form attachments to others, facial expressions and autism, romance and how our social well being affects our biology and physical well being.
An overarching theme in this book is that our early social experiences with our parents and family and friends in childhood dramatically affect our temperaments and the ways in which we react to various social encounters, but that this is not destiny, that it can be changed. It was a pretty good read if psychology interests you. This was interesting, but not as incisive as his earlier Emotional Intelligence. It seemed a collection of chapters heading in a direction, but never really pulling it all together. I did learn a few things.the heavy-duty emotional work of the brain is generally done on the left side, and that the most important part of reaching attunement with another is through eye contact. It seems like we should know this, and we might say 'of course,' but sometimes it is the simple things that are the mos This was interesting, but not as incisive as his earlier Emotional Intelligence.
It seemed a collection of chapters heading in a direction, but never really pulling it all together. I did learn a few things.the heavy-duty emotional work of the brain is generally done on the left side, and that the most important part of reaching attunement with another is through eye contact. It seems like we should know this, and we might say 'of course,' but sometimes it is the simple things that are the most important things to remember.
He doesn't give us direction on how to develop more social intelligence, and spent perhaps a little more time than I liked on deviant behaviors. I have enough trouble trying to figure out everyday relationships without getting into the mind of the sociopath next door. But I'm sure the most troubling deviant behaviors propels much of the research, so we are likely to have that end of the bell curve as part of the discussion. Anyone interested in understanding of why we feel what we feel, and what happens in our brains in different social circumstances and social interaction should read this book. The examples Goleman brings here are those we witness everyday everywhere.
Reading this book has helped me a lot to reconsider in a wiser way how my behaviours are affecting others around me and vice-versa. It has a lot of research data that some might also find it tedious. As somewhere at the end of the book says, simply put Anyone interested in understanding of why we feel what we feel, and what happens in our brains in different social circumstances and social interaction should read this book. The examples Goleman brings here are those we witness everyday everywhere.
Reading this book has helped me a lot to reconsider in a wiser way how my behaviours are affecting others around me and vice-versa. It has a lot of research data that some might also find it tedious. As somewhere at the end of the book says, simply put, know how to 'act wisely'.
Goleman, a science writer for the New York Times, does a great job of making accessible the impact of neuroscience research on modern understanding of psychology in social matters. This was one of the most personally interesting books I've read, as large swaths of it were directly applicable to my life. For example, the impact of parenting styles on neurological development of children and the passages that led me to understand that I had at least a mild case of Asperger's Syndrome n my younger Goleman, a science writer for the New York Times, does a great job of making accessible the impact of neuroscience research on modern understanding of psychology in social matters.
This was one of the most personally interesting books I've read, as large swaths of it were directly applicable to my life. For example, the impact of parenting styles on neurological development of children and the passages that led me to understand that I had at least a mild case of Asperger's Syndrome n my younger years.
Additionally the general subject matter of how two brains intertwine physiologically when people interact, especially in situations of romance and friendship, is directly applicable to my current professional endeavors. The only reason I'm not giving it 5 stars is because I would have preferred more details had been pulled from the footnotes into the main text. It's not as bad as a Gladwell book, but it could have gone deeper into the details. I bought an electronic copy before returning the book to the library, as I expect to return to this repeatedly. It also has served as a starting point for further dives into this area of research. The book I'm currently reading, came from tracking down some research referenced here. I believe this is the book that was the 'break out' for Daniel Goleman.
He is the guru for Emotional Intelligence. We used to call these 'social skills' and on report cards were not weighted with 'letter grades' or rubric scores.
It was more like 'acceptable' or 'non-acceptable.' My request would be that if knowledge changes so much every year, and as it turns out according to Goleman, people only get fired from jobs because of their lack of 'social skills,' what aren't we changing schools aroun I believe this is the book that was the 'break out' for Daniel Goleman. He is the guru for Emotional Intelligence. We used to call these 'social skills' and on report cards were not weighted with 'letter grades' or rubric scores. It was more like 'acceptable' or 'non-acceptable.'
My request would be that if knowledge changes so much every year, and as it turns out according to Goleman, people only get fired from jobs because of their lack of 'social skills,' what aren't we changing schools around to teach only social skills and 'how to access information' skills. Goleman, You haven't hit the goal, man. (Get it?) Please press on until social skills have taken ahold of the American Educational system like no other. You and Michelle Rhee should unite! Sincerely, Dayla Sims, Ed.D.
I originally thought Goleman's Emotional Intelligence was his best work. Now I am not so certain. Comparing the two books, the most notable difference between the two has to do with the first book's style as being more authoritative. I think this is because Goleman was on new ground. He was explaining the emergent science of emotional intelligence. Social Intelligence offers a more relaxed delivery regarding how the brain works in social interactions.
It also offers insight regarding group think I originally thought Goleman's Emotional Intelligence was his best work. Now I am not so certain. Comparing the two books, the most notable difference between the two has to do with the first book's style as being more authoritative.
I think this is because Goleman was on new ground. He was explaining the emergent science of emotional intelligence. Social Intelligence offers a more relaxed delivery regarding how the brain works in social interactions.
It also offers insight regarding group think. I have found it useful in dealing with my students, coworkers, and as a resource for some of my writing material. Not as laser-focused or as immediately useful as Emotional Intelligence, it's really a survey of the state of the art of social psychology and emotional neuroscience, as seen through the lens of positive psychology. The descriptions of how things are supposed to work and what's not working when they don't are strong, but practical strategies for nurturing social intelligence in individuals or organizations where it is underdeveloped are not as well-defined as in Goleman's E.I.
A good read Not as laser-focused or as immediately useful as Emotional Intelligence, it's really a survey of the state of the art of social psychology and emotional neuroscience, as seen through the lens of positive psychology. The descriptions of how things are supposed to work and what's not working when they don't are strong, but practical strategies for nurturing social intelligence in individuals or organizations where it is underdeveloped are not as well-defined as in Goleman's E.I.
A good read, nevertheless. 'When the eyes of a woman whom a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine, but not when she looks elsewhere.' In effect, being chronically hurt and angered, or being emotionally nourished by someone we spend time with daily over the course of years can re-fashion our brain. These new discoveries reveal that our relationships have subtle yet powerful life-long impact on us. Thus how we connect with others has unimagined significance. Whe 'When the eyes of a woman whom a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine, but not when she looks elsewhere.' In effect, being chronically hurt and angered, or being emotionally nourished by someone we spend time with daily over the course of years can re-fashion our brain.
These new discoveries reveal that our relationships have subtle yet powerful life-long impact on us. Thus how we connect with others has unimagined significance. When someone dumps their toxic feelings on us, explodes in anger or threats, shows disgust or contempt, they activate in us circuitry for those very same distressing emotions.
Their act has potent neurological consequence. Emotions are contagious. We catch strong emotions much as we do a cold. Every interaction has an emotional subtext.
Amygdala triggers the fight, flight, or freeze response to danger. The brain responds to an illusion created by the film with the same circuitry as it does to life itself, even on-screen emotions are contagious. The movies we watch commandeer our brain.
Rapport exists only between people. We recognize it whenever a connection feels pleasant, engaged and smooth. But rapport matters far beyond those fleeting pleasant moments. When people are in rapport, they can be more creative together, more efficient in making decisions.
Shared attention is the first essential ingredient. As two people attend to what the other says and does, they generate a sense of mutual interest, a joint focus that amounts to perceptual glue. Such joined attention spurs shared feelings. One indicator of rapport is mutual empathy.
Both partners experience being experienced. At one point he seemingly re-injured himself.
If the other person happened to be looking the supposed victim in the eye during the injury, that person winced, mimicking his pained expression. But people who were not looking at the victim, were far less likely to wince, even though they were aware of his pain. When our attention is split, we tune out a bit, missing crucial details, especially emotional ones.
Seeing eye to eye opens a pathway for empathy. Attention in itself is not enough for rapport. The next ingredient is good feeling evoked largely through tone of voice and facial expression. In building a sense of positivity, the non-verbal messages we send can matter more than what we are saying. The eyes offer glimpses into a person’s most private feelings.
More specifically, the eyes contain nerve projections that lead directly to a key brain structure for empathy and matching emotions. When two people’s eyes meet, they have inter-linked their orbital frontal areas, which are especially sensitive to face-to-face cues like eye contact. These social pathways play a crucial role in recognizing another’s emotional state.
Buber coined the term I-It for the range of relations that runs from merely detached to utterly exploitative. In that spectrum, others become objects. We treat someone more as a thing than as a person. Psychologists use the term “agentic” for this cold approach to others, viewing people solely as instruments to be used toward our own goals. That ego-centric mode contrasts with communion, a state of high mutual empathy where your feelings do more than matter to me, they change me.
While we are in communion, we stay in-sync, mashed in a mutual feedback loop. But during moments of agency, we disconnect. When other tasks or preoccupations split our attention, the dwindling reserve left for the person we’re talking with leaves us operating on automatic, paying just enough attention to keep the conversation on track. Multiple preoccupations take a toll on any conversation that goes beyond the routine, particularly when it enters emotionally troubling zones. A person’s capacity for attuning – wanting to enter and understand another person’s inner reality.
Psychoanalysts use the term “inter-subjectivity” to refer to this meshing of two people’s inner worlds. The phrase I-You is a more lyrical way of describing the same sort of empathic connection. As Buber described it in his 1937 book on the philosophy of relationships, “I-You is a special bond. An attuned closeness that’s often found between husbands and wives, family members and good friends. The everyday modes of I-You reach from simple respect and politeness to affection and admiration, to any of the countless ways we show our love. The emotional indifference and remoteness of an I-It relationship stands in direct contrast to the attuned I-You. When we’re in the I-It mode, we treat other people as a means to some other end.
By contrast, in the I-You mode, our relationship with them becomes an end in itself. Our brain registers social rejections in the very area that activates when we’re hurt physically. Distress and separation and joy and bonding both bespeak the primal power of connection. When our need for closeness goes unmet, emotional disorders can result.
Social rejection or fearing it is one of the most common causes of anxiety. Feelings on inclusion depend not so much on having frequent social contacts or numerous relationships, as on how accepted we feel, even in just a few key relationships. At the extreme people with no capacity for empathy become psychopaths.
But the far more common sub-clinical variety live among us, populating offices, schools, bars, and the routine byways of daily life. Our ability to repair a disconnection, to weather an inter-personal emotional storm, and then re-connect again is one key to life-long happiness. The secret lies not in avoiding life’s inevitable frustrations and upsets but in learning to recover from them. In a parent-child relationship where attunement of any kind occurs rarely and the parents are emotionally uninvolved with the child.
Such children encounter only frustration in trying to get empathic attention from their parents. The absence of looping and hence shared moments of pleasure or joy increases the odds that a child will grow up with diminished capacity for positive emotions, and in later life will find it difficult to reach out to other people. Children of such avoidant parents grow up skittish. As adults, their expression of emotions is inhibited, particularly those emotions that would help them bond with a partner. In keeping with the model that parents displayed, they avoid not just expressing their feelings but also emotionally-intimate relationships. The human mind depends on categories to give order and meaning to the world around us. By assuming that the next entity we encounter in a given category has the same main features as the last, we navigate our way through an ever-changing environment.
But once a negative bias begins our lenses become clouded. We tend to cease on whatever seems to confirm the bias and ignore what does not. Prejudice in this sense is a hypothesis desperately trying to prove itself to us. And so when we encounter someone to whom the prejudice might apply, the bias skews our perception, making it impossible to test whether the stereotype actually fits. When It becomes You, they turn into us.
Emotional contagion means that a goodly number of our moods come to us via the interactions we have with other people. In a sense, resonant relationships are like emotional vitamins, sustaining us through tough times and nourishing us daily. The marital researcher John Gotman has found that in a happy stable marriage a couple experiences about five up-beat interactions for every negative one. Perhaps that same five-to-one ratio is an approximate golden mean for any on-going connection in our lives. We could in theory do an inventory that evaluates the nutritional value of each of our relationships. If say the ratio were reversed with five negative for every positive interaction, the relationship would be in urgent need of mending.
A negative ratio of course does not necessarily mean we should end relationships just because they are sometimes or even too often difficult. The point is to do what we can to alter the troubling behaviour for the better, not banish the person. Now that neuroscience can put numbers to that raw buzz of fellow feeling, quantifying its benefits, we must pay attention to the biological impact of social life. The hidden links among our relationships, our brain function, and our very health and well-being are stunning in their implications. We must reconsider the pat assumption that we are immune to toxic social encounters.
Strong distressing states like disgust, contempt, and explosive anger are the emotional equivalent of second-hand smoke that quietly damages the lungs of others who breathe it in. In this sense, social responsibility begins here and now. When we act in ways that help create optimal states in others, from those we encounter casually to those we love and care about most dearly.
Nourish your social connections. Social intelligence can be summed up with three words: Empathy, Synchrony, Sympathy. The social brain is the only biological system that attunes us to the internal state of the people we're with.
Our social lives are governed by this interplay of the two modes: the Conscious and the Unconscious (the high road and the low road). This book deduces the social brain through neuroscience and psychoanalysis; for example the way we mimic one another due to mirror neurons, which are also key to empathy. I Social intelligence can be summed up with three words: Empathy, Synchrony, Sympathy.
The social brain is the only biological system that attunes us to the internal state of the people we're with. Our social lives are governed by this interplay of the two modes: the Conscious and the Unconscious (the high road and the low road). This book deduces the social brain through neuroscience and psychoanalysis; for example the way we mimic one another due to mirror neurons, which are also key to empathy. It highlights the importance of social relationships and how social interactions can reshape our brains overtime (neuroplasticity, neural epigenetics). It also talks about the relationship between newborn and mother and how a child's brain is shaped and formed. Just like IQ, there's EQ (Empathy Quotient Test), something which a psychopath lacks. Giving solutions for bias and prejudice and stressing on the dangers of anxiety and cortisol, on the other hand, how healthy relationships trigger the secretion of Oxytocin the hug hormone which reduces anxiety and boosts happiness.
A Manual for World Peace With the latest research in neuroscience over the last several decades, our collective knowledge on how societies are formed and how people interact has taken profound leaps and bounds. Spindle cells allow us to make split-second judgements about how to act in a given social interaction. Mirror neurons allow us to feel another's mental state with similar rapidity. Even our closest cousins, the great apes and chimpanzees, have far fewer mirror neurons than do humans.
Even A Manual for World Peace With the latest research in neuroscience over the last several decades, our collective knowledge on how societies are formed and how people interact has taken profound leaps and bounds. Spindle cells allow us to make split-second judgements about how to act in a given social interaction. Mirror neurons allow us to feel another's mental state with similar rapidity. Even our closest cousins, the great apes and chimpanzees, have far fewer mirror neurons than do humans.
Even the gaze from an attractive woman can cause a surge of pleasure - but only for the man she is gazing. Emotional contagion can surge out of control in tragic ways, as in the case of soccer riots in the United Kingdom. When the low road of the amygdala goes unchecked, deaths and profound regrets can easily result. Fortunately, the high road of the neo-cortex and prefrontal cortex can aid us in reaching a desirable goal, be it social harmony, a pacified riot, or even maintaining a healthy, happy, two-way relationship between family members and friends. We learn how to relate to others as babies, and if parents fail to teach their children how to interact appropriately, the result will be tactlessness and an inability to form relationships (found to be the cause in 85% of subjects studied). Social intelligence is about more than manipulation or persuasion.
The three ingredients of empathy are a recognition of another's suffering, the ability to feel that suffering, and the willingness to do something to help. Failing to notice those in need results in a default state of apathy. The implications are myriad and can be applied to law enforcement (when something is off, trust your instincts and investigate a witness further), parenting (abuse and indifference on the part of parents can easily lead to PTSD and psychological illnesses in adults), company leadership (most rank-and-file employees want a boss who cares more than a gigantic paycheck each month) and teaching (the upside-down graph of anxiety relative to performance is discussed in more detail than it was in Emotional Intelligence). Suppressing emotions causes stress, as was the experiment where one of the pair was asked to deliberately mask her feelings towards a scene of profound carnage designed to evoke sorrow. Even though she knew she was doing it as part of an experiment, her body still produced physiological changes. Over time, too many stress hormones result in the body producing too much cortisol, which has horrendous implications for Of course, not all humans do not form genuine, loving bonds easily. The Dark Triad (Narcissists, Machiavellians and Psychopaths) are the exceptions which prove the rule of social cohesion.
To be fair, a certain level of narcissism and self-esteem is required to perform well. Lacking this baseline, depression is liable to take hold. But too much leads to arrogance, grandiosity and a lack of objectivity, filtering out any criticism, no matter how valid. Machiavellians are master manipulators, focusing on only one thing - 'What's in it for moi?' Treachery, deceit and mud-slinging are part of the daily grind if it results in their advancement. And finally, the ultimate predators - psychopaths.
With the inability to feel love, they are utterly uninhibited by guilt or fettered by remorse. Their brains work differently, and as such, will reveal themselves in subtle ways.
This is where the high road is crucial. Fact-checking and a left-brain focus on their professed qualifications and skills can expose them.
As more people learn to recognise and take countermeasures against psychopaths, they will have to behave or be ostracised. Additionally, this could lead to a more rapid paradigm shift toward a culture that does not foster certain sociopathic traits, such as feckless risk-taking, individual success at the cost of others, and impulsivity. Autistic individuals also have trouble forming bonds, but in different ways. They are unable to accurately decode the emotional cues exuded by others.
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Nervousness tends to result in their focusing on mouths, rather than eyes, and in so doing miss out on a great deal of the non-verbal cues. This tends to result in unintentional tactlessness and broken bonds. The remainder of the book consists of how the latest scientific research has resulted in practical applications for modern-day life, including marriage, health (childhood trauma can last until death in some cases, especially if it is not mended through loving relationships and compassion), health care (few patients enjoy being treated as mere objects, and they are more likely to sue and/or complain if they are ignored. Treating patients with concern rather than detachment also increases the likelihood that they will remember their treatment schedules. Encouraging children to learn is also dependent on new teaching techniques. Enjoyable exercises (such as assisting a fellow student to solve a crossword puzzle in Spanish) that tax the prefrontal cortex moderately are more likely to aid students in vocabulary retention and stave off boredom in a way that droll lectures about the proper use of commas is not. Author of Emotional Intelligence and psychologist Daniel Goleman has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business.
The Wall Street Journal ranked him one of the 10 most influential business thinkers. Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times best sellers list for a year-and-a-half. Named one of the 25 'Most Influential Busine Author of Emotional Intelligence and psychologist Daniel Goleman has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business. The Wall Street Journal ranked him one of the 10 most influential business thinkers.
Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times best sellers list for a year-and-a-half. Named one of the 25 'Most Influential Business Management Books' by TIME, it has been translated into 40 languages. The Harvard Business Review called emotional intelligence (EI) “a revolutionary, paradigm-shattering idea.” Goleman’s new book, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence, argues that attention — a fundamental mental ability for success — has come under siege. Leadership that gets results demands a triple focus: on our inner world so we can manage ourselves; on others, for our relationships; and on the outer forces that shape our organizations and society itself. His more recent books include The Brain and Emotional Intelligence, and Leadership: The Power of Emotional Intelligence - Selected Writings. “The argument has long been made that we humans are by nature compassionate and empathic despite the occasional streak of meanness, but torrents of bad news throughout history have contradicted that claim, and little sound science has backed it.
But try this thought experiment. Imagine the number of opportunities people around the world today might have to commit an antisocial act, from rape or murder to simple rudeness and dishonesty. Make that number the bottom of a fraction.
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Now for the top value you put the number of such antisocial acts that will actually occur today. That ratio of potential to enacted meanness holds at close to zero any day of the year. And if for the top value you put the number of benevolent acts performed in a given day, the ratio of kindness to cruelty will always be positive. (The news, however, comes to us as though that ratio was reversed.) Harvard's Jerome Kagan proposes this mental exercise to make a simple point about human nature: the sum total of goodness vastly outweighs that of meanness. 'Although humans inherit a biological bias that permits them to feel anger, jealousy, selfishness and envy, and to be rude, aggressive or violent,' Kagan notes, 'they inherit an even stronger biological bias for kindness, compassion, cooperation, love and nurture – especially toward those in need.' This inbuilt ethical sense, he adds, 'is a biological feature of our species.” —.